Feedback Thoughts Week2 / Week 3

I read each of the receiving feedback sites and the best I felt in regards to receiving feedback were: Using Harsh Feedback as Fuel and Why Rejection Hurts and What to Do. They were both tailored to professional development for the most part. The story about rejection does offer insight into other types of rejection which is helpful for people of all ages access the internet. I felt the article on the Harvard Business Review was most beneficial to me because of how it made me look at school right now. I DO want an A in every class, however, in the real world, especially just recently leaving a career where we collaborated and built off of each other's strengths, it was a reminder that in reality, it's okay if I am not a superstar in microeconomics this semester; it's all right to be average. It also reminded me to be ok with not being a perfectionist.

On to providing feedback websites, they were a bit longer, so I didn't read all of them. I watched a video for the feedforward idea in a previous class, so I didn't read that article, but I like the concept. The sites I liked best were Be a Mirror Give Readers Feedback that Fosters a Growth Mindset and The Difference Between Praise That Promotes Narcissism vs. Healthy Self-Esteem. I liked these because they were geared towards providing feedback to children versus adults. Although feedback in this class is for adults, it is something that we must learn about as a child. Since I am a parent these articles were helpful to me. Honestly, from being a working mom, I would say that my kids are probably used to a more adult style feedback. So I believe with the practice I have from my previous employment I can soften my approach. The Narcissism article is a very interesting read and makes me wonder if it also has any link to the current generational terms I hear are an issue, you know, helicopter parents and participation trophies.

If anyone has read my intro, I talked about taking Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace. There are two books we read, Daniel Goleman - Working with Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence 2.0. The second book has an online test for your EQ score. Both will teach you that feedback, both giving and receiving is part of your emotional quotient or EQ, and although your IQ can't change, you can improve your EQ. Several employers look for the right fit employee through their behavioral interview questions and your emotional intelligent responses. Long story short, feedback makes the world go round!

That part of your brain that reacts to rejection is the same part they discuss in emotional intelligence that goes haywire when you have a freak out moment and your emotions get the best of you. Hence why you get a dandy little picture below. Learn to keep this in check and rejection will be easier and less emotional hijackings will occur.

Image Source: www.oneclearmessage.co.za/beware-amygdala-hijack/